At times I sit and wonder if people can only be happy for others when they themselves are happy. If in fact it is true that misery does indeed love company.
I always tend to be the type of person to never believe that someone isn’t genuinely happy for me. But if they are miserable, they will spew negativity my way.
At times I am very loud and outspoken. Well, actually most of the time I am. I‘m not one to beat around the bush when giving advice or to simply tell someone what they want to hear. I sit, listen, analyze and then give my opinion. Additionally, I always try to make the OPINION part stand out. I never think, “Oh, I’m feeling down” or “I’m down so I’ll let my negative feelings rub off on the situation”. I always try to balance things out. I show the good and the bad, no matter what my mood or circumstances may be.
For the last few months I have been watching things from the sidelines. People are slowly drifting away and/or their presence in my life isn’t so known anymore. I can’t help but sit back and think, now that I am happy, that is seems like no one has any negativity to feed off of. Now that I smile instead of cry, there is no reason to sit around because perhaps now others’ lives don’t seem that grand.
Then there are the ones who do stick around and make an appearance every so often to try and bring rain to the parade. Even if you’re talking about your most amazing day, they’ll throw in the little, “But you wore that?” just to bring something to the mix.
Lastly, but definitely not least, there are the people who have been there through the tears, the laughter, the bumps in the road, the highs and the lows, and have never left your side (even at times when you have tried to push them away). They are the ones who remind you that things can only get better. They always bring light to the darkest of situations.
If you had asked me a year ago if I thought misery loved company, I would’ve probably rolled my eyes, laughed and said “no”. But, lately I’ve realized that some sayings are 100% true. At least in my life, I can confirm it.
At times, we can only be what we are…and that is human. We do make mistakes. But, in my opinion, prior to giving a friend your two cents or advice, you should step out of your box and make sure your mind is clear, despite what you may be going through at that moment. Give some solid advice if you can and, if not, perhaps they would appreciate it more if you said “I can’t give you advice right now”. It’s fine to offer both sides and show the good with the bad. But don’t always show the bad, especially if you’re in a bad state of mind. It may lead you to keep “friends” a little longer.
Misery shouldn’t love company. It should work its way out of your life.