"My Son Doesn't Want To Go To His Father's Wedding. Yikes!"

My son is almost 15-years-old and his dad lives in Phoenix. They have a good relationship for the most part. My son’s father and I co-parented and we ended up really good friends after our divorce almost 10 years ago. About 3 years ago my son’s father met this girl. She’s a real nutcase. I’m not going to get too deep into why she is a nutcase..she just is. It has nothing to do with jealousy, as his family thinks she is, too. She gets involved in lots of unnecessary drama, lies and BS. My son isn’t too fond of her either. They get along but he’s the type to be kind and respectful anyways.

Here’s the issue. My ex is marrying his girlfriend next spring. My son doesn’t want to go to the wedding. I was planning on going back to Phoenix next spring for a visit anyway, so I scheduled it around his wedding. My son is 100% sure that he doesn’t want to go. He’s starting to see what kind of person his dad is marrying and he’d rather not be a part of it.

When I told my ex that his son didn’t want to go to the wedding, he immediately said that it was my doing and that I should make him go. Then they tried to make him feel guilty he wasn’t going and that made him not want to go even more! My opinion is that, first, it’s only December and anything could happen between now and the wedding. Second, I am not going to force him to go. Finally, he is a teenager and would rather have fun then deal with the drama of her and the wedding.

So do I have the right idea? Of course, I’d rather my son go to the wedding but I think it should be his choice. What would you do?

~Lisa Ricardo

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