"Just A Thought" (Karla's Blog)

Hola Sola. I’m back! A friend of mine asked me recently if it’s bad to date a younger man. Personally I don’t think so. However, I wouldn’t date a guy a lot younger than me. I think for me it depends more on the person. How mature they are, how they treat me, etc. Being friends first is a must for me. One of my ex’s was a year younger than me and, in all honesty, it was one of the few good relationships I’ve ever had. I usually end up dating guys that are a few years older than me. But I say as long as the guy is of age and treats you right, then go for it! There are lots of older guys who are still really immature. I mean, yeah, some people will probably still judge you but don’t let them get to you. As long as YOU’RE happy then nothing else should matter. It’s your life not theirs. I would take into consideration the age gap, though. Depending on how far apart you are in age there may be things you’re thinking about that he’s not. He may be at a different place in his life than you are. Just make sure you have strong communication. That’s my opinion anyways.

I also recently read a question on the Sola page. I can’t remember exactly what it said but it was something along the lines of “If you were dating a 30-year-old man who treats you like a queen but doesn’t make a lot of money, would you date him, marry him, or leave him?” I read a couple of the responses. Honestly, in my opinion there aren’t a lot of good guys out there anymore. Rather than being so cut and dry why not give this ‘great guy’ a chance? Tell him how you feel if it’s a problem for you. If he doesn’t make enough for your standards talk to him about it. Maybe he’ll be willing to look for a better job. Maybe not. I don’t know, it’s hard for me to answer because I don’t believe money makes the man. I can take care of me and mines. That’s how I was raised. Sometimes I struggle but I don’t depend on anyone to take care of me. I mean, sure, having more money is nice but it’s def not a deal breaker for me.