“Loving Your Child More Than You Hate His Father”

I’m an avid SoLatina fan lol. I respond and comment to most posts and like to read others’ views and comments. However, some of the SoLatina mothers don’t appear to have integrity as a parent and I wrote the below to shed some insight on how us mothers can become even better parents by loving our children and always putting them first.

I am a mother of one, a handsome and smart 7-year-old son who means absolutely everything to me. I am the woman I am because of him. Being a mother has changed my outlook on life. It has changed my definition and insight on love. It has taught me how to love, how to be loved and how to give love, even in the hardest of situations.

I’ve read so many posts and comments on SoLatina and some of the advice given saddens me. In the midst of the drama, stress and day-to-day difficulties of motherhood, it appears that some of us have forgotten what it is to truly be una madre. When you become a mother, everything you do and everything you say impacts your child. And although we mothers have so much responsibility that at times you’d think we had superhuman powers, I realize we still have flaws and some growing to do. But if I ask any mother what is the most important thing you can give your child? I would hope all of us respond with the same answer: AMOR.

Genuine love has no boundaries. It is color blind, race blind, gender blind. If as a mother the most important thing we agree on is love, then why at times do we try to hold back love from our children? If a father is less than perfect, why do we create stipulations on how or when we will allow a father to be a father? Why do we have an issue with the father’s significant other if she is good to our children? Why do we see love from others as less important than the love we provide to our children?

Amor es Amor. And you can NEVER have too much of it. I will agree that I don’t think anyone can love my son as much as I do. But that doesn’t mean I have a right to deprive my son from the love that others are willing to give him.

The most important thing I’ve learned from being a mother is to LOVE my son MORE than I dislike his father. I challenge all mothers to live life in this manner. To think about how you go about doing things and wonder how your decisions will impact your child. If you are not allowing a child’s father or his mate to be around your child, question if you are doing and saying things for your own benefit or for the benefit of your child. But most of all, question your integrity.

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